What Is Purity? ~ Raising Boys ~


Train up our sons in the way they should go. What is purity? How do they walk through this world? This culture? We have had to come to terms with what we know about us. And how God is directing us to walk through this life, knowing who we are.  Saying no even when it might not make sense to others.  Continuing to be awakened in our own complacency to the environment we are surrounded by and how to set the boundaries, and what tools to use, to walk through this world.


This isn’t about judging others. This is about knowing the sin nature of oneself. This is about wanting to please God. This is about a deep, passionate desire to live a holy life in obedience to Jesus Christ our Lord. Understanding this is a very real, present and spiritual battle every single day until we meet Jesus. This is about confessing I am sinner. About doing that which God is calling me to. This is about honoring God. Honoring others.


God says, “You should be holy, because I the Lord God am holy” (see Leviticus 20:26, 1 Peter 1:16). In other words, holiness is built into the character of God. He has a separateness and hatred toward sin. God does not want to be near sin, and He does not want us to be near it either. The greatest argument for sexual purity is God’s holiness. If we wish to be godly, we must wish to live in sexual purity. ~Randy Alcorn Eternal Perspective Ministries


Sexual purity begins in the mind, not the body

“Above all else, guard your heart [mind, inner being], for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23).


“But we have to recognize that we live in a world that is under sin’s curse, and therefore must be very careful as God’s people to separate ourselves from the behaviors of the world around us where immorality is routine and even celebrated. We need to be sure that not only are we avoiding celebrating it, but also that we are separating ourselves from it to be God’s pure people, holy in His sight.

And be careful what you expose your mind to. If you’re on a diet, don’t go to Baskin & Robin’s. If you do, your resistance will break down. If you want to abstain from lust, you don’t go places and watch movies and programs and read things that stimulate lust. Don’t give your mind junk food. Be sure you’re getting spiritual nutrition.”
Randy Alcorn – Eternal Perspective Ministries


There are many scriptures on purity, guarding minds. So many things to consider. Be careful lest you fall.

This is about living with the future in mind. Each choice today, we consider how that is going to impact my walk with God.   How it will affect others.  For our sons in their decisions and conduct.


As well as myself as a woman. In my example in dress and conduct. As a mother to young boys. I confess. I have been convicted. I have made changes as I have been made aware of how my actions can be a stumbling block to others in my dress.  Realizing that a woman’s actions in how they carry themselves, dress, and so much more are signals that communicate something.  It starts in the heart.  When our hearts are willing, God will be faithful to show us areas of sin, or ignorance and more.

This week I was with our sons on a little history adventure. This women’s swim suit caught our attention from 1920’s. My youngest in pure honesty, believes this should be the fashion today for all women. He is the same boy who said there should be a wall around the lingerie departments in stores (this should be a law), and turns the magazines around in the check out aisle of grocery stores with barely clothed women. He desires to keep his mind pure.

How far we have come in our society. Sin can start with a small step forward of leniency in allowing thoughts into our minds, growing us numb to the sin, and making us think just a little bit more is going to be just fine. That good old question, “how far can we go before we have crossed the line into sin”.

I so appreciate these two articles and wanted to share. (below).  Although at this point, we are taking precautions with our boys hearts, they  knowing we are on their side to train them up with the idea of courtship rather than dating.  To keep that ever important accountability.  Our little boys, are now teenage boys, growing into young men, with eventual hopes to be husbands someday.

We are learning the boundaries needed for our lives, to keep our minds pure. So that we keep our whole beings pure. So that we are honoring God. Honoring young ladies. Honoring that one who is their future wife.

It’s a lot to figure out in this crazy world. We continue on our mission. Praying fervently. Examining our own lives.

With our hearts set on… not worrying about fitting into the world or pleasing men. But striving to please God. Servants of Christ. Gal. 1:10







Today… I Will…

As long as I have breath…


Preparing for the day.

In the morning when I rise give me JESUS.

His mercies are new every morning, Great is THY faithfulness.


Today… I will…


  1. Sing and Worship – Psalm 96:1
  2. Be thankful in all circumstances – 1 Thess. 5:16
  3.  Pray continually – 1 Thess. 5:17
  4.  Put on the full armor of God – Eph. 6:10-20
  5. Take every thought captive – 2 Cor. 10:5
  6. Watch over the ways of my household – Prov. 31:27
  7. not eat the bread of idleness – Prov. 31:27
  8. Serve others in worship to the Lord –“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” Matthew 25:40
  9.  Abide in His commands – Abide in His love – John 15
  10. Honor the people around me – Romans 12:10
  11. Do all to the glory of God – 1 Cor. 10:31
  12. Ask for wisdom – James 1:5
  13. Love in truth – ” speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” Eph. 4:15
  14. Rest in Sovereign God – Romans 8:28
  15. Stand firm – abounding in His work – 1 Cor. 15:58
  16. Fix my mind on things above – Col. 3:2
  17. Thank Jesus for all He has done for me – “For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive in the Spirit.” 1 Peter 3:18
  18. Receive the gift of His grace as I fall short, fall on Him, and am resurrected again and again to new life.  Today!  Eph. 2:8-9


“If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will[a] ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. 8 By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples.” John 15:7-8


Draw Near My Child


On our trip to a wildlife sanctuary in Bandon, Oregon, a couple years ago, this was one of my favorite moments.  We watched these two walk together.   The child under the shadow of his mother’s wing. At one point, mother was up ahead and baby was lagging behind. Baby was desperate to catch up and be near once again.


“Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.”

 Ps. 91:1


Thinking of all the beautiful places God the Father has taken me in my life journey with Him. Calling me out of the darkness and depths of despair a long time ago. Walking me daily to greater and greater light. Opening my eyes to more of Him.


How often I want to hold on emotionally those beautiful places where He has provided manna from heaven in the midst of desperate need. “For he satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.” Ps. 107:9 I am so elated, I want to be in this place forever. I forget so easily, that He is with me wherever I go.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Joshua 1:9


That this filling is HIM, Christ alone filling me. No matter where I am.

When I’ve been in a satisfying place after a long journey through the dessert, and he would call me out of this place, my emotions would flood. I would lose sight momentarily clinging to the provision… rather than the PROVIDER. Forgetting the PROVIDER always has greater and more for me. My emotions have gone to fear of what is to come next. Rather than faith, in simply believing wherever I am, He is with me and that is all that I need.  He is leading me to bless me.


Over many years of walking with Him. I realize, each and every stop for a season has been His provision to fill. And every new place He has called me to follow Him, I am always once again in awe and wonder of  greater, more beautiful, provision. Necessary for His purposes and plans to be completed in me and the life of my family. I am thankful for every single place He has taken me and filled me. In His faithfulness He leads me out and onward, and upward to more of Him. Each step of the way, the highs and lows, has been time of growth, challenge, and immense blessing.


If I had not followed Him, I would have not reaped the blessings. I would have not grown. I would have not seen the beauty of His holiness shine forth. Would not have met the beautiful people in my life along the way who have given much to increase my faith, and encouraged me onward. I think of one move we made a few years back. How God provided richly a friend and sister so beautiful and perfect for my life. I think of an older lady in Christ who God used in a desperate season of desert to refresh me with her loving touch and helpful hand. I think of another older lady in Christ who has walked the walk with boys on the spectrum. A refreshing flood of goodness to my soul in the midst of what had been a very dry and weary land. Someone who understood completely, who knew, who lived it, walked it, breathed it. A special gift to be so in sync with another, when our experience with most of the world not able to really understand the depth of the emotions, experiences, obstacles, and needs. That can feel lonely. Someone who had yet another piece of “LIFE” to add to my life to cheer me onward in my calling. He brings refreshing through the Body of Christ. He brings refreshing in staying near in following Him.

I’ve realized as time has gone on in my walk, as He calls us onward to step out and go… there has been a change in me. While sure I wonder about the unknowns, but there is a greater over ruling hope and peace … knowing… God is up to something once again. I know it is going to be good.


There is a bit of less resistance.  Less lagging behind with my emotions trying to resist the move forward. More contentment in following Him. Like the child in this picture, lagging momentarily.  And mother who is leading and yet not too far to be reached.  I draw near to God.  He is there.  We walk on together.


Less fear, less holding so tightly to my surroundings, my emotions, and more faith in a faithful God Who is leading our family on towards His next blessings. Though it may be a walk through a difficult place…  (I even saw this parent-child in the picture above maneuver together under and over a high fence – being squeezed and pressure applied to their bodies)


We know that through difficulty God is with us,  refines us through the fire of His Holy perfection. Setting us freer. Taking us beyond the obstacles. Taking us deeper to more of Him. Seeing the blessings and His provision, manna from Heaven. Satisfying our longing souls. For our longing is for more of Him. Seeing His glory and power.


I remember Jesus’ love.  Graciously obedient to the point of death on a cross to redeem me of my sins.  I am raised to life with Him.  This steadfast love calls me onward to trust and obey, without hesitation.  “…not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord”  Rom. 12:10-11


Oh how beautiful and magnificent and truly overwhelming it will be when for those who follow Jesus, when the journey is complete and we move upward for eternity in His perfect LIGHT forever.


“let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings..”

Heb. 10:22


 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” James 4:8